At the age of 12 I lost my Dad to suicide. For over a decade, I couldn’t hear or say the word suicide, let alone place it in the same sentence as ‘Dad’.
I couldn’t talk about what happened, I didn’t want to, and I didn’t know how to. Instead, I decided to hide this part of my life. I acted as if nothing really happened at all. In some environments I would even lie, just so I could divert the conversation.
It was in 2018, one month into my new job at KIND where suddenly everything changed, I witnessed Project 84. This was an activation to raise awareness of male suicide, led by the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). 84, reflecting the number of men who take their own lives every single week in the U.K. The statues were representation of real men, created by the families and friend of those left behind. These stories were available to read online.
For the first time in my life I started to read about other people who also suffered loss. I started to realise that I wasn’t alone. I took time to think about myself, how I reacted, how I bottled everything up and then I started to think about how many people might also be feeling the same way as me. It was here that I found a purpose.
Now, I share my story and my reflections in hope that nobody will suffer in silence.
I’m open and comfortable to share my story to a range of audiences, virtually or in person. Below you will find a summary of themes and topics where I believe my story resonates and can have the most impact. I can speak solo or as part of a wider panel. I’m also experienced in hosting and facilitating panel discussions.
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